Wednesday, November 2, 2011

One's Legacy...finding the HAPPY

I have a motto that I truly believe in: "when you try really hard not to be something or someone, chances are, you are most like that something or someone...or perhaps you see that you are going in that direction."  PAUSE.  Funny...the other day, a friend of mine asked me "why do you seem so mad at the world lately?"  I was caught SO OFF GUARD!  To myself, I seem the opposite because I view myself as someone who is happy...I was also a bit offended, because I never want anyone to think of me like that.   But lately I have had alot on my mind and had been venting, and to him, that was sounding mad at the world.  Perhaps, during recent times, I have been so honest and real about how I have felt, that I seemed "mad."   My point is, I should have reflected on my feelings first and then spoken up.   I want to leave a legacy that is known as kind and loving, and not mad.   Further, to me, being mad is a secondary emotion...and I have realized that my recent feelings stem from a sadness and frustration.  Frustration that I am not in my life where I want to be yet, and that I do not have all the people in my life that I want and love in it right now...but that's fine, because this is how it is supposed to be.  To get to your HAPPY, you must go thru the fire first. 

Have any of yall ever found yourself trying not to be something or someone, that you realized that that something or someone was a part of you?   Just wondering....

Thursday, May 26, 2011

My Persuasion Can Build a Nation...

Every man needs his Queen...I've noticed something: more women these days, in my generation, do not want to and/or are not getting married or they are not in relationships.   Call me old-fashioned, but I never imagined that I would make it to my mid-20s and not be married with a family.  I love my life, but sometimes this mess is for the damn birds.  Don't get me wrong, it is men of my generation too...less and less of us are getting married, and then choose to focus on careers and dating.  Datin is fun...(*dreaming about a boo...*)...pause...oops, sorry, I dwifted for a second, I'm back. 

I keep trying to figure it out, but alas, I am stuck.  Aw least my parents taught me how to be domestic too.  I mean shit, Beyonce, I love you boo...but all the single ladies is not what's up forever suga foot.   Sigh...I guess my question is this ---- today, is it about marriage and family, or the boos and/or boo thangs?  Boyfriends are fun!  ha...

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Advice...or just a normal person's thoughts...

Take this as you wish, just soup for thought:  People will always try you (by "try" I mean they will hate you, dislike you, want to see you fail, harm those or what you love, etc.) --- what people say about you, do to you, and how they treat you is NOT always an indication of who or what you are - HOW you handle the situation and come out of it IS an indication.

LISTEN AND OBSERVE.  You will not always pick the wolves out of the pack, but you are better equipped and will lead a better life if you know you did all to surround yourself with those who are good and uplift you. 

Tuesday, April 19, 2011


I have been so neglectful of my blog...of so much...ugggh...when does it become ok to submerge yourself in one thing and then allow everything else to fall to the waist side?  Is this a lesson?   .... peace n love

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Just a thought...

Lately, I have been pushed very hard professionally, personally...*sigh* and it is a bit terrifying, but I am excited.  When have you been pushed by others to a point that terrified you?  Is that not what we all need in our lives?   Just a thought...miss my blog....

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

How to be a Silent Assassin...

"He who speaks first, loses." - anonymous

In other words, stop thinking and talking so much before you act.  Now, it is true and WISE to think before you speak, but oftentimes people still speak too soon.   I have been often told that I need to SHUT UP, listen, and then respond.   It is so true.  In order to be powerful in this world, you must know when is the appropriate time to speak, and even if it is you who should be doing the speaking (maybe have someone else negotiate on your behalf) - and when you are done waiting for the right time to speak, you must be FIERCE. 

Now, some of you are probably wondering what in the haaaayle is a silent assassin. For those who are wondering, here's the answer --> it is knowing when the right time to strike has come upon you.  This does not mean that  you must be mean, intimidating, or a jerk; however, when you speak and present yourself to others, you should always be sure to do your best to positively and honestly represent yourself.  A lot of people tell me that I can be outgoing and loud, but when I am quiet and peaceful, that is when you must WATCH OUT.  I do not let everyone know what I am thinking or what I am about to do, and then I just surprise people and come from another end.  It is NOT being tricky! It is about learning how to TRUST and CARE for the right people, and knowing how to handle yourself in all situations.  I am by NO means there, but I am getting there.  But I definitely have a couple of kills in my past *wink wink*  Ya dig?  

Monday, January 24, 2011

Bamboozled and hoodwinked

Bamboozled and Hoodwinked - phrase that can used as an adjective or verb.  Definition: when one is lead to believe that he or she is hanging with someone normal and cool, when the reality is that the other person is crazy as hell.  

Ladies and Gents - ever meet a person, date em or hang with him...and then later on "find out" that the person is crazy and/or lame as hell????  A friend of mine had this situation happen to her ( I have to )...but her particular situation is quite hilarious and sad, because the dude KEEPS talking to other people about it, is still sad and mad, blasts her on twitter...and it's been like 8, 9 months!  His thing is this - she played him and did him wrong.  Dude, you two were only dating for like 3.4 minutes, stop trippin.  Granted, they were spending a LOT of time together...but she's not mad anymore, why are you? it is annoying finding out that he is still telling people about it. 

Here is the thing ---> most people show signs of being crazy or lame within the first or first few encounters, but people CHOOSE TO IGNORE THEM because we call it "cute" or ooooo he/she likes me.  Fuck all that.   I am not placing the blame on my friend by all means, but she could have avoided a little bit of the craziness if she dipped out sooner.   HOWEVER, she was also bamboozled and hoodwinked.  This happens when a person appears to be normal and acts normal, but is doing some crazy ass mess behind your back, like driving by your house at night.  Where this fool messed up...he told her other friend...I don't understand this.  What is driving by her apartment at night going to do FOR YOU!?!? C'mon dude...and then he was lying about other girls trying to talk to him, SHOWED UP at her graduation when she pretty much said NOT TO COME...smh smh...

Lessons to be learned: Please pay attention to what people say and do around you.  If he/shows up when you ask them not to, this is NOT cute, this is NOT nice - this is probably crazy.   If you have only been dating a week and the other person is talking about killin someone for speaking to you - he or she is probably crazy as hell.  People always see the signs and choose to ignore them.  Men pretty much show us who they are off jump and women ignore it.  WOMEN - WE ARE NOT CAPTAIN SAVE A ---> it is not your job to help him - please pay attention to the signs and actions - they are there, they are there, they are there!

Don't get ya ass bamboozled and hoodwinked...

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Pearlfection!! 76 women submit their lives to service on January 20, 2008

I just wanted to give a shout out to my beautiful and exquisite and spectacular Line Sisters.  I have made some great, lasting, and loving friendships because of all of you, and I thank you for that.  I know that we do not always talk or see eachother, but I think about you all very often and you are in my deepest  prayers and thoughts.  I read your emails, I follow you, I cherish you.   Thank you, and I cannot wait to see you all.

Sisterly Love, Thanks, Blessings,

I encourage each and every one of you out there to make purposeful goals for yourself, and strive to not only be something great, but to be a part of something great.   Something great is what makes you and those around you happy, healthy, and pulsing with joy.   It is NOT that hard to obtain if you believe.  It takes hard work, but the work is SOOOO worth it...I am doing my best to live my life in this way every day, and I thank everyone in my life for being here for me.  For instance, I do not have the world following me on here (yet!) and many many followers (yet!) but I continue to write on this blog because it helps me and it makes me happy, and if I only have ONE person following me and getting something out of it, I am good with that.  It comes from within.    Deuces. 

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Rich Rod, you are out of here...Do the Hokey Pokey?

Many people have long awaited the demise of Rich Rod, and I think Michigan did it tastefully and professionally...F I N A L L Y.  Rich was never a true Michigan man, and he just couldn't cut the cake.  Also, there was not much respect for him, on and off the field. 3 years of embarrassment was enough - all these factors together killed the team.  Nice try, Rich.

This is NOT to say that I am going to start doing the hokey pokey just yet!  I need to see some defense and kickers making field goals -- it looks like D Rob is going to stay...Oh Lord, please let him stay with Michigan because he brings hope and excitement for better years...I just hope players do not start dropping like flies, then the poor man is going to have to rebuild an entire team (well, he has to anyway, I suppose)...hmmm, I just want the morale of Michigan football to come back to its highest, because these past years have been really sad for true Wolverines.  

Side note: did anyone see that Ohio State/Michigan bball game?!  Really, c'mon Michigan!  We can't catch a break with these rivalry games...I  miss the old days, let's bring em back!